What if neighbors could also be interviewed? (Original)

Why is it so difficult to solve the noise problem between upstairs and downstairs?

How did they evolve from ordinary neighbors into hostile neighbors?

Among them

Is it related to an individual's personality?

Let's look at some real-world examples:

Different personalities and solving upstairs noise

Relationship between difficulty

People with high emotional intelligence and empathy are generally better at dealing with noise.

Sensitive and selfish people have a very difficult time dealing with noise;

Personality situation 1

The upstairs neighbor is emotionally intelligent and empathetic, while the downstairs neighbor is sensitive and selfish, making it difficult to resolve neighborhood issues.

Case: The upstairs neighbor has a 5- or 6-year-old girl who is usually very well-behaved and doesn't run around much. Her mother always teaches her not to run or jump around at home, and has designated a play area with a soft mat. She usually goes to bed around 10 pm. However, the downstairs neighbor repeatedly comes upstairs complaining about the noise. The upstairs neighbor, feeling pressured, installed a security camera, saying they could check the footage whenever the downstairs neighbor complained about the noise to see if it was their home causing the disturbance. But the downstairs neighbor is completely uncooperative, insisting that the noise is coming from upstairs. Thus, the conflict between the two families remains unresolved.

Personality Situation 2

The downstairs neighbor has high emotional intelligence, while the upstairs neighbor is sensitive and selfish; neighborhood problems are easier to resolve.

Case: The upstairs family frequently argued, either fighting or throwing things, creating a very annoying noise. The downstairs neighbor started visiting frequently, avoiding the noise issue and becoming friends with the upstairs family. They would listen to the upstairs' complaints, go for walks together, and have drinks. Over time, the downstairs neighbor subtly brought up the issue of poor sound insulation in the floor. Out of consideration for the downstairs neighbor, the upstairs family would lower their voices during arguments and stop throwing things; and the downstairs neighbor, hearing the noise, felt understanding and sympathy because of their friendship, and their tolerance increased.

Personality Situation 3

Sensitive attitudes downstairs versus sensitive attitudes upstairs: Neighborhood issues can easily escalate.

Case: The upstairs neighbor has a 3-year-old child, and the downstairs neighbor has a newborn. The downstairs neighbor sends WeChat messages reminding the upstairs neighbor to be quieter, as the child is frequently startled awake. The upstairs neighbor refuses to admit their mistake, citing the child's natural behavior. Seeing that the problem remains unresolved, the downstairs neighbor tagged their upstairs neighbor in the residents' group chat, hoping to get help from the community. This escalated into a heated argument in the group, and instead of resolving the issue, the two families came to blows, ending up in a physical altercation that required the police to intervene.

(The downstairs neighbor's sensitivity isn't inherently wrong; it's the upstairs neighbor's sensitivity and selfishness that escalate the conflict. Since the downstairs neighbor already feels wronged, not only is they not getting a tactful apology from the upstairs neighbor, but they're also being rebuffed. Anyone would find it difficult to quell their resentment. This is why most upstairs neighbors are criticized; in reality, most unresolved neighborhood problems stem from dealing with people like the upstairs neighbor.)

Personality Situation 4

The downstairs neighbor has high emotional intelligence, while the upstairs neighbor has strong empathy; neighborhood issues are easily resolved.

Case: The grandmother downstairs has a heart condition. A family of three recently moved in upstairs; the child is 3 years old and loves to run around. At first, the grandmother tolerated it, but after a while, she felt unwell and bought snacks to visit upstairs. She knelt down and spoke to the child in a very kind tone, explaining her concern: "Grandma knows you love to play at your age, but Grandma's health isn't good. When you run around, my heart can't take it. So, could we run a little less?" The child's parents, listening nearby, felt very embarrassed and apologized repeatedly. After that, whenever they heard the child running, they would stop abruptly.

Note: All the above cases are from real life.

Does this method actually work?

It also depends on the actual situation.

After all, what kind of weirdos live upstairs?

The editor can't say either.

Solving the problem of building noise

The best approach is mutual understanding.

On this basis, further sound insulation and vibration reduction measures are implemented.

Then everything will be fine.

How to soundproof your home?

=Wall Sound Insulation=

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Solution | How to Soundproof Walls

=Ground Sound Insulation=

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Solution | Floor sound insulation and vibration reduction

=Ceiling soundproofing=

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Solution | Ceiling sound insulation and noise reduction

Recite it 10,000 times every day:

My upstairs neighbor is a good person!

My upstairs neighbor is a good person!

My upstairs neighbor is a good person!